One agreement—show up for yourself—is all it takes to have what you want most in this world. I’ll show you how.

The Hotel from Hell + (Finally) Trusting Myself

I like to think of myself as someone who is well-equipped to be assertive when needed. On the other hand I can be a pretty dedicated rule follower. When I sign up for something I feel that I agree to whatever conditions are spelled out before signing on. So in keeping with my view of…

A Lesson from the
Water Park

As some of you know, my family and I vacation every year in the Pocono Mountains. We have done this for about the past 14 years so have developed a list of must-do activities over that time. Some we have outgrown over the years as the kids have gotten older but going to the water…

A Few Pounds…

It’s been such a long time since my last post. Three months… yikes! Not such a great track record lately. A few people even reached out to me to see if I had the wrong email info for them, thinking they must have stopped receiving my posts… But no. Just me, still struggling to fit…

My Little Phobia

My post today starts with a confession—I have a bit of a phobia. A phobia of entertaining. Ugh. Looking inward, I’ve pieced together some of the why: 1) I grew up with a mother who does not like to entertain so other than family get-togethers for Thanksgiving and Passover, and an occasional special-event party for things…

What I Really Really Want

I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions. I figure I live my life by always striving to improve things so I don’t need to use the New Year to get myself to think that way. But it did occur to me that the New Year is an opportunity to look at the big picture of…

The Top Five Issues

One of the perks of doing what I do for a living is that I get an inside view of a wide range of human behaviors, feelings, thoughts, and experiences. From that perspective I am able to get a sense of “the norm,” at least within the context of my lovely clients and those who…

Paralysis by Ambivalence

It’s been a while since I’ve written, I know. I wish I had some sort of exciting reason to share but the truth is, I’ve been stuck, stuck, stuck. It’s been a struggle to find the time and the energy to write. A big fat struggle. As many of you know I’ve taken on a…

I Love It When My
Clients Cry

I do. I love it when my clients cry, which I know sounds bad but let me explain. Helping people to make changes in their lives is the crux of the work I do. In order to do that we talk—we tell stories, we analyze things, we dream, we set goals, we face things, all…

The Difference a Day Makes

I had one of those days this week. A day from hell. I was in over my head with something new at my hospital job that I hadn’t done before. I felt overwhelmed and clueless about what I was doing. Stupid and angry that I wasn’t better prepared. Mad at the powers-that-be for expecting me…

Dudley + Simple Pleasures

I look at him and I’m overwhelmed by his cuteness. He’s making eye contact with me, interacting with me, truly connecting. Just a dog but what a personality, a significant part of the family that little Dudley of ours. And not only cute and funny but his fur is unbelievably silky, I could pet him…

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